Fear comes in many shapes and sizes, and it takes a bit of a nerve to control it. Some people are more fearful than others, being terrified by things that may seem nonsense to others. The point is that it is a mental state, which requires a strong self-control to keep it in normal boundaries. In severe cases, like phobias, it takes a lot of practice and guidance from a psychiatrist to get through the entire rehabilitation process. Still, for our daily fears, there are a few ways to keep them well managed. And to make them go away we first have to face our fears and escape from their imprisonment.
#1. Create a list of your greatest fears
All right, maybe facing your fears right from the start is not the best option. But you must be aware of a fear if you wish to face it eventually. Thus, it may be very helpful to write down your biggest fears. Many times, just reading what are you scared of, can make you laugh, as it will appear a stupid thing. If not, at least by being aware of your fears, you will start making a plan to overcome them.
#2. Physical relaxation can be learned through practice
You won’t be able to succeed on the first try, but with enough practice you will manage to trick your brain into feeling what you wish, not what it wants. Just like in the cases when breathing faster can create a feeling of panic and anxiety, doing the opposite thing can reinforce relaxation. Whenever you feel being caught by fear, start trying to calm your breath and your mind, and concentrate on a positive feeling to replace the negative one. Meditation can help you overcome these situations and improve your general state.
#3. Your accomplishments are greater than losses
Because of fear, many people miss on doing certain things. But this is something you don’t have to think about, as it will only aggravate the fear and frustration. It is more recommended to focus on the bright side of life and concentrate on goals and achievements if you wish to find a motivation strong enough to help you face your fears. What doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger. This is what you have to remember each time you meet a fear or difficulty.
#4. Know when to turn off your imagination
Instead of helping us, our imagination can go wild sometimes, which is especially dangerous in the case of our fears. In our mind, things can appear worse than they are in reality, as we tend to exaggerate the situation. So, sometimes we can do better without our imagination. If you feel things get the wrong direction in your mind, just shut it off and find something else to do to keep you busy.
#5. Get to know the cause of your fears
Everything has to start somewhere, so your fears have roots in something as well. To cure diseases, you must know first what causes it, so it goes pretty much the same in the case of fear. Take some time and look deep inside your person, and see what is triggering that fear. Maybe it is a bad experience, memory, something that marked you, which is making you feel like this in the present. Doing this, you will be one step closer to getting rid of the fear, by curing yourself.
#6. Don’t forget to laugh
And do it a bit more often than you use to. Believe it or not, laughter is not only an excellent remedy for stress, but it can help you overcome your fears. Whenever you feel scared, try laughing out loud, as the challenge will start appearing less frightening than before. It is like a light got turned on in the dark corners of your mind, which are fueling the fear. Things will only get brighter from now on, by enjoying laughter every day.
#7. The presence of a role model can be motivating
Do you wish to achieve a goal, but you are afraid of the consequences of failing? Then spending some time with someone that made it in that direction will help you out. Apart from seeing that what you aspire it is possible to achieve, that person will also assist you with a positive attitude and way of thinking, showing you how to be constructive in achieving your objective and forgetting about being afraid.
#8. Knowledge is the worst enemy of fear
In many situations, people are more afraid of the unknown. Not knowing enough about something may trigger unwanted scenarios in our minds, which eventually will create fear. Get proper training and education, and gain the skills and tools needed to succeed in life. Soon, your fears will dissipate, and the space will be filled with the newly acquired knowledge.
#9. Handle fears the hard way
Sometimes, you will just need to do the things you are scared of, to see that it is not that bad. Just like diving into water that appears to be cold, due to the very hot weather outside. You have to go all way in at once, and the water suddenly appears not to be that cold after all. So don’t think twice and grad your fear by the collar, by doing it. The beginning is harder, but every passing moment will become easier.
#10. Ask the help of a professional
It is true that some fear have deeper roots than we might expect, being very difficult to handle on our own. In these cases, don’t be afraid to ask the help of a specialist. You are not the first and won’t be the last person trying to manage an issues connected to fear. A psychologist, counselor, any other person trained to handle this situation, may offer the help and support you need to face your fear.