To all the women who think there are no good men left in the world, this may come as a surprise. There are good men, you haven’t just met them.
Even if you did, you probably missed them or worse- friendzoned them. Well, there might not be a perfect man (neither a perfect woman) but there certainly are nice men. Wondering why you can never find any? Here are 5 reasons why women can’t seem to find a perfect man.
Hook- up culture has taken over
People have plenty of options these days, so why waste your life sticking to one? All thanks to hook-up culture, people have plenty of options to choose from. It seems to have replaced traditional dating and relationships, at least for certain people. Do you want a stable relationship or just another hook-up? Decide for yourself.
Looking in the wrong places
So where do you look for your next date? Tinder? Some nightclub or bar? Maybe you have been looking at all the wrong places until now. You won’t possibly find prince charming at a late night frat party. Bars and clubs aren’t the best places to go looking for love. They may work well if you are looking for physical relationship, but rarely anything more than that will come out of them.
Next time, try talking to some man reading in a coffee shop or who passes you by on his morning runs or in the gym. You want something substantial, look for it in the right places.
Everyone comes with a baggage
Nobody will come with a smooth past. We have all had rocky times and you need to accept that your man might come with certain baggage. Just don’t try to act like a fixer. Hoping to fix that certain thing about him because then he would be perfect. If you want someone to accept you just as you are, do the same for other person as well. Love people for who they are, accept them rather than trying to mould them into your ideas of perfection.
The problem of “Man-Child”
You must have dated or come across these men in past. The kind who suffer from Peter Pan syndrome and never want to grow up. This kind wants to stay in its bubble and never grow up because that would mean taking up responsibilities and getting their shit together. Most men just don’t want that sort of thing.
Maybe It’s You
But what if the problem isn’t with men? What if you are commitment phobic and don’t want to get rid of all the past baggage? There might be several barriers you may have erected while trying to find your Mr. Perfect. Unrealistic expectations may be playing a spoilsport here. Or are you simply looking for an arm candy? Maybe, it’s time you analysed your own expectations and actions.